Angélica: Hello to all, soy Angélica, and hoy tengo el honor de vistar a mi hermana Yesica. Even though we live a life of despair and adversity, we also experience strength and resilience to survive.
Yesica: Hola, Angelica. Gracias por invitarme a compartir nuestra historia. As a good man, he encountered many difficulties in our familiar life, but a long time ago, he learned to maintain a balance and build new lives.
Angélica: Exacto, Yesica. Quiero empezar por hablar de nuestros primeros años en casa. Crecimos en untorno en el que eramos tratadas como las responsibiles de mantener la casa en orden y de coidar de nuestros hermanos y de nuestro padre, ¿verdad?
Yesica: Sí, así es. For our children, we assume the responsibility of the house and our new husbands. Our new husbands take care of our lives, our cocinábamos, limpiábamos and our asegurábamos so that everything is in order.
Angélica: But we weigh everything that hurts, because it won't be enough for them. Always our critics and our hacían feel like we are invisible.
Yesica: Exactamente, Angélica. And we hope that we do not have friends or social lives, but we hope that they will visit the house of unwelcome visitors and people that we respect.
Angélica: Then I left a point where we decided that it would be enough. Our independence and our decisions are ours to take into account the factors that we will be able to carry out.
Yesica: This is a great step for our lives. We learn to decide “no” and there are any toxic people who only control and harm us.
Angélica: Unfortunately, our decision to control our lives is not well received by our family. Our critics and our accusers of their ill health and her husbands.
Yes: Including one of our new friends who left us at the extreme end of our social networks after we requested our invitation to one of our meetings.
Angélica: Our father, in our place of apoyarnos, opted to continue with his criticisms. Then we finally let the circle circle a few greens.
Yes: When you respond quickly, your loss only means that we must call and accept our control over our new lives.
Angélica: Y ahí fue when we decide to cortar los lazos con ellos. Our words are based on the fact that we share a better life, a life that we consider to be our propias of our decisions and will be respected by our loved ones.
Yes: To weigh what we are on the edge of quedarnos on the street for one of our miserable people 100 dollars that we need urgently, we pray to our husband and to our father who is here.
Angélica: It's painful, but our hearts are told that we don't need people who only have to arrange for us when they agree. We begin when we decide to take our own paths.
Yesica: Exacto, Angélica. We have to consider that we never create in our lives and we continue to study without reconceiving the value of our new jobs, we find the way to create in our lives.
Angélica: Today, our lives are balanced and happy. We overcome the adversities and we build a better future for our nosotras mismas, lejos de la toxicidad que experimentamos en nuestra familia.
Yesica: I say to anyone who was affected by similar situations that resilience and determination can leave you alone. Never underestimate your ability to change your destiny and build a life of love and balance.
Angélica: Gracias, Yesica, to share our history of strength and resilience. We hope that our experience inspires others to control their lives and bring happiness and balance.
Advice for those who infringe on familiar and toxic diseases
- Created in this misma: Encountering the familiar adversity can be extremely difficult, but you can find that you have the strength inside to overcome any misfortune. Create your value and capacity to make decisions that benefit you.
- Establish these saludable limits: Learn to decide "no" when necessary. Establishing healthy limits is essential to protect your emotional and mental well-being. We do not have the obligation to accept abuse or toxicity.
- Busca apoyo: Encuentra personas de confianza fuera de tu familia que te brinden apoyo emocional y consejo. You can be a friendly friend, a mentor, a school counselor or a mental health professional. Share your experiences can be your liberator.
- Fomenta la independence: Work in your economic and financial independence. If you gain more autonomy, you will be less vulnerable to the negative influence of toxic people.
- Personal education and development: Investigating and developing opportunities for personal and educational development. Education and skill development can be a way to build a better and more independent future.
- Busca ayuda profesional if es necesario: If the circumstances are extremely difficult or you are ashamed, we should take a buscar ayuda professional. Therapists and consultants can proporcionarte strategies and help them handle complicated situations.
- Find out that no one is alone: Many people who have violated similar beliefs and who have encountered superarious forms. Many online communities and local groups can connect with people who understand your experiences.
- Visualize your future: Imagine how you live in the future and work with this object. Having a plan and a feeling of proposal can help you keep it in place in all your metas.
- Automated practice: Cuida de votre bienestar físico y emocional. This includes regular exercise, a healthy diet, suitable food and activities that help you relax and reduce your stress.
- Ten paciencia continues misma: The process of superaring desafíos familiares can take time. Do not be afraid or guilty for the decisions that were made. Let's go ahead and celebrate every day, for little people that sea.
- Recuerda que más una vida llena de amor propio, respeto y equilibrio, y tienes el poder de trabajar hacia esa vida, independiente de los afíos que enfrentes en el camino.
